Hello, troublemakers out there, I’m Matt Catling, and this is the next disruption session – Your Network is Your Net Worth.
Today’s topic is networking because it really is the backbone to long-term being successful and pushing the limits. The right network can lift your ability, show you new ways of getting to your goals and have your back in times of challenge.
With The Troublemakers we’re all about finding something and turning it on its head to make it better. So that’s what I am doing at the moment with my Troublemakers Big Breakfast, because I want to encourage networking and business socialising but I usually hate networking events because they are so intensely boring.
So I decided to make my own networking event that didn’t follow any of the rules and basically create a disruption in the networking world so people can come and have some fun, meet aspiring entrepreneurs and increase their net worth without falling asleep.
Actually it would be pretty hard to fall asleep at The Troublemakers Big Breakfast because we serve espresso martinis, those are bound to keep you energised all day and really great for if you are going into a 9 am team meeting at work after! We also play some games, have some fun prizes and get some real energy going.
So the point of The Troublemakers Big Breakfast is to bring together high achievers and entrepreneurs that want to be able to connect, support each other and open up opportunities. This is where the magic happens, in these kinds of groups with these kinds of conversations, not the big plan in your head, but all the people who come together to feed your idea and put legs under it.
So the first Wednesday of every month we run these breakfasts in Sydney, first thing in the morning at 7 am, totally free and we do that because we want as many people there as possible because when you bring high achievers or people that are playing a bigger game together you create massive opportunities.
Now if you’ve got your mindset right, then instead of rejecting opportunities, you’re going to pounce on them, you’re going to accept them. When you are open to a network of people who are living the life you want and have the income and choices you are looking for, you will find avenues to get there really quickly, it’s like having access to a VIP area instead of the regular front house tickets.
And this is what I want to talk to you about today, because if we look behind the scenes, the mentality of social groups we already unconsciously attract people into our life and because it’s happening on an unconscious level we can attract all sorts of negative stuff based on our previous wounds or limiting beliefs.
We have a whole series of unconscious belief systems about relationships, about health, about wealth, and these belief systems are harmonic. In fact, I believe they each have a frequency, and you might have experienced this, where you’ve walked into a room where two people have had an argument and the moment you walk in you can feel that energy, you can feel the frequency in the air without anyone saying anything. And that vibration, that energy is really coming from the belief systems that we’re holding unconsciously, which is why we often will unconsciously attract the same results, like attracts like which means we can end up spinning in these cycles and getting stuck in our old patterns simply because we are always surrounded by them and it’s keeping us at average. That’s the harmony, that structured equilibrium.
We’ve done an analysis on this where we’ve looked at our clients, their network and the results their networks are getting and they have been smack bang in the middle. In fact, they have been the average, so for finances, some people earning more, some people earning less and when you do the calculations the average of their results ends up smack bang in the middle. So you are surrounding yourself with the average of your health, the average of your relationships, your average in terms of business income level, every area of life.
And so if we look at this, it’s really, really interesting. We are attracting like belief systems unconsciously, and if you look at the process of rapport, and the process of rapport is to simply find something in common, when you find something in common, the unconscious mind relaxes and it creates what we call unconscious trust, to put it really simply, when people are like each other, they like each other. And so the same principle is happening when it comes to our belief systems. Our unconscious mind is searching for likeness and when we find that in any area of life, then there is an attractor field that happens.
So we are naturally staying put where we are, and even if we want better results or want to achieve a higher standard, we don’t have the frequency around us to make that change.
What we’re talking about is changing this vibration, and the way we change this vibration is to start getting conscious about those unconscious beliefs. Sometimes it’s as easy as looking at the people in your current network and seeing what their biggest challenges are and looking at the results they are getting to find out what your attraction and common links are. So it’s basically doing an internal audit on your health, relationships, business, career, your self-worth, all of those areas of life.
Now the thing is that the minute you get honest, that’s when we can change. The minute you get real and drop that ego of ‘everything’s perfect’ and look at the gap between the results you are currently getting and the results you want, that’s when we start to allow ourselves the opportunity to change.
So the first step is we have got to get honest about our results and these results often mirror our belief systems because you are earning the exact amount of money you believe you’re worth, you’re getting the results in your relationship that you believe you’re worth. You’re getting the results around your health that you believe you’re worth.
So once people have identified the belief systems that are keeping them stuck I can help them change those unconscious belief systems and turn them into positive ones where they’ve got choice. But in order for a long-term transition to happen or a long-term change to happen, we’ve got to look at making some external shifts as well, and that happens with a future vision where you plot your progress points going forward and then action steps to get you there.
And part of these action steps are to start surrounding yourself with the people who are already getting these results and people who are on the same journey with you. You are going to need that support and that inspiration because from here on you are going to get out there consciously and start to push through those old belief systems.
What I’m proposing when it comes to your network is consciously attracting the right people into your life and it might be a bit out of your comfort zone to make those different choices. To me that just means you are on track to massive changes and incredible success so all you need to do is show up, even when you are feeling uncomfortable about it and get started.
This is often an uncomfortable process. I share this at my events and people continually say to me, ‘I don’t know what to do, I don’t know how to attract these people’ or, ‘Why would they even be interested in hanging out with me?’ And these kind of little stories are just that, they’re just stories that reflect your belief in your self-worth. And the great thing about stories is that we can change them, and the minute we change them, we free up possibility, and so one of the things that I started to do, because there was so much resistance with my clients around this topic, I decided to create a network event for you and I’m going to bring in my team, my personal network and we’re going to constantly grow together.
So that’s really the basis of why I launched The Troublemakers Network, and it’s so great to see people get out of their shells and shrug off some of their old labels, especially after they have had an espresso latte, some of the people that wouldn’t normally be talking suddenly start talking. And I just wanted to make it so much fun and really disrupt that whole networking concept.
Now when it comes to networking what I want to say to you is this, you don’t have to remove people from your life. There are a lot of speakers out there that will tell you to get rid of your friends and family because they’re destroying your chances and holding you back, all that type of thing. That may be the case, but I’m really not a fan of getting rid of family and friends because they have so much to teach us, and as we heal our wounds the negative impact they might have lessens, and so I think those relationships that aren’t your top choice are good to have some contact with as a reminder to keep going, to keep healing to keep doing the work.
Instead of cutting people out, what I say is to open up and bring new people in, bring new opportunities in so your positive influences outweigh the negative ones. The minute you bring in someone that is a different level in terms of their results, it’s like you’re installing a new belief system. How exciting is that?
With every new high achiever that comes into your network and stays there (through developing a relationship) within 90 days, you’re installing that new belief system. That’s how it started for me when I was 17 years old. I’d done all the NLP training there was, I knew everything I had to do to make the next jump and I was still stuck in this negative self-worth cycle. I was shy and scared of putting myself or my ideas out there. And by changing my network and bringing in people who did believe in me, and more, they believed in themselves and their abilities and their success I was able to launch my first business and earn a spot in the BRW top 100.
And so what I would say is that life is relationships.Please don’t hide behind your computer or your device. Know that you will unconsciously attract your wounds, your limiting beliefs as well as you positive beliefs. When it comes to building your network, it is uncomfortable, it will activate you, but we’ve got to keep pushing through it. And the great thing is that when you have high achievers that stick in your environment, it means often that you’re shifting because Like attracts Like.
It’s so hard to do this solo, let me tell you, so we are here to support you and be here for you as you make your transformation from shy and introverted to being able to talk about your business ideas and connect with people who are like you in a safe and fun environment.
Come and be part of this incredible community, The Troublemakers Network. We’re going to kind of treat it like Fight Club and we’re going to expand it all over the world. And when I say Fight Club, what I mean is, if you remember Fight Club, the first rule is you do not talk about Fight Club. The second rule is you do not talk about Fight Club. And the third rule, you do not talk about Fight Club, well, The Troublemakers Network we reversed it. The first rule of The Troublemakers Network is you tell everybody about The Troublemakers Network. The second rule, tell everybody, and of course the third rule, tell absolutely everybody.
So we want to build this. We’re going to build this nationally and internationally. We’re going to have a whole heap of fun as we create the most incredible community to be able to support each other, to grow, to be able to open up our networks, and remember, your network equals your net worth. All you have to do is show up.
I hope to see you in The Troublemakers Network Big Breakfast, get involved everybody and make sure you make trouble over the next week. Take care.